Either way, you already know there are a few touchy issues engaged couples are "supposed" to talk about before making it official.
We asked a few seasoned couples' therapists to give us the prewedding conversation lowdown, below, and map out the tough discussions to have with your soon-to-be spouse before heading down the aisle.
You can learn a lot about people by observing who they surround themselves with. After all, just being in the know is a good place to start.
We all gravitate toward those who share our values, and if you don't know your partner's friends, there's a good chance that you don't know your partner. Before hitting your one year anniversary, there are many topics that should be discussed. Discover offers a Free Credit Scorecard, and it won't impact your credit score.
Don’t talk about this kids soccer schedules, your crazy boss, or your never ending to do list.
Instead take these questions with you on your next date night and take turns answering them.
And while, yes, we all have the right to spend our hard-earned money on the things we want, it's crucial to make sure that you and your partner are aligned on the purchases you intend to make as a couple. This is particularly true if you and your partner have plans to combine your finances (via marriage) or buy a home in the next few years.
Now, we don't like to generalize, but it's safe to say that if you've dated your SO for an entire year and haven't gotten to know their friend group beyond a superficial level, that's a serious red flag. A Discover® and Match Group study — which looked into the relationship between dating and finance — found that people associated a good credit score with other positive characteristics like trustworthiness and intelligence. No person's financial situation is perfect, and fear of judgment shouldn't stop you from being honest with your partner about your credit score.
According to a Discover® and Match Group study, strains on relationships are highly likely to be caused by finances.
And opening up about these issues to your SO (without scaring him/her away) is certainly no easy feat.
But love it or hate it, your family is a large part of your story, and couples who've dated for at least a year should feel comfortable sharing that part of their lives with one another. Ideally, the fact that you've been dating your SO for 12 months should pretty much mean that you've passed the test. You should still be transparent with one another about your bottom lines, whether that means a baby before age 30 or a move to a new city within the next three years.
But here's the surprising thing: You shouldn't stop there.
Our experts agreed it's important to discuss where you each stand on the issues that will come up once you start trying to have kids and when the tykes are actually around. " asks Rebecca Hendrix, a licensed marriage and family therapist.